Most women can name their reproductive anatomy. What almost none of us were taught is the anatomy of pleasure , what's actually happening in your body when you become aroused, and why that knowledge changes everything.

Have you ever wondered why you don't feel "in the mood" on queue, while it seems like everyone else does? Or why your partner seems ready to go at any moment, but you need more time and the right context?

Here's the truth: there are two completely normal types of sexual desire, and understanding which one you experience can change everything.

Vaginismus is when the muscles around the vaginal opening involuntarily tighten, making penetration painful, difficult, or impossible. This can happen during sex, when using tampons, or during pelvic exams.

If this sounds familiar, you're not alone - and you're not broken.