Meet Kylie, sex and relationship therapist.
I specialise in women's sexuality and wellness and couples counselling. I work with women and relationships of all kinds. I bring warmth, compassion and depth to supporting people through the inevitable challenges of intimate life.
My practice is grounded in trauma-informed psychotherapy and somatic sexology - the meeting of somatics (focusing awareness through the body) with sexology (the scientific study of human sexuality).
It merges practices from time-tested traditions such as yoga, meditation, breath work and tantra with neuroscience, psychology and somatic learning theory.
My work is also informed by research on what helps intimate relationships to thrive.
A little more about me…
I came to this work the way many people do: not through theory, but through my own lived experience. In my late thirties, I was dealing with chronic pelvic pain, a deep sense of disconnection from myself, and the lingering impact of sexual trauma on my ability to relate confidently in intimate relationships.
I had spent many years leading systems change, community development, and government reform - helping facilitate change at a whole of system level. Eventually I realised I was avoiding the most intimate landscape of change that was needed, my own body!
So I began a deep, eleven year apprenticeship. I trained in process-oriented psychotherapy, somatic work, nervous system healing and earth based traditions. What I discovered wasn't a single fix - it was a relationship with my own body and inner world that I slowly cultivated through curiosity, devotion and courage.
Somewhere along the way, I realised I not only loved this work, but that I had accumulated a lot of wisdom to share with women and partners who might also be feeling stuck, ashamed, or alone. This is why I now do the work I do as a somatic sexologist.
Reclaiming our embodiment, our desire, and our aliveness is not only personal healing. It is connected to something much larger.
Before becoming a therapist, I worked alongside hundreds of people with lived and living experience to shape policy and design services that actually met people's needs. This included several years as a senior strategic adviser to Victoria's Family Violence Reforms.
This background continues to shape how I work. It taught me that personal struggles are not individual failings. They are responses to broader contexts - cultural shame, gendered expectations, the legacy of intergenerational trauma, the marginalisation of our ‘wildness’ and deeper soul longings. The ways we’ve been taught to perform for others rather than live authentically.
The consequence is that we have outsourced our sense of choice, agency, and self-knowledge to authorities outside ourselves. We don't know ourselves - our desires, our complexity, the landscape of our inner experiences, our beauty and fierce potential.
How we work together
The process of healing is coming home to your body and experience, not fixing something that is broken. Trauma lives in the nervous system, not just in our thoughts, so we work with sensation, breath, sound, movement, and mindful awareness.
In working together, I provide a warm, safe space and move entirely at your pace.
When difficult experiences become frozen in our bodies, they block our access to pleasure. Together, we gently re-pattern involuntary responses and build capacity for sensation, feeling, and a genuine felt sense of agency.
By teaching somatically, we acknowledge the mind-body connection and use it in all aspects of our work. You’ll learn to tune into the ways your body sends and receives information.
I follow your unique process rather than imposing a framework - always adapting to what you need.
I do not touch clients and sessions are fully clothed. Any touch practices are client-directed (you touching your own body) or between partners, and always consent-driven. Your safety, agency, and choice are the foundations of our work together.
I am a PACFA-registered psychotherapist (Certified Practising #27029) and certified somatic sexologist (SSEAA).
My training includes process-oriented psychology (ANZPOP), somatic sexology (ISS), trauma-informed facilitation and Gottman Method. I work in regular clinical supervision and uphold the ethical standards of both bodies.
I bring specialist training in conflict resolution, negotiation, collaborative design, non-violent communication, dialogue, narrative therapy, wheel of consent, early ejaculation and anatomy of arousal, motivational interviewing, internal family systems, feminist theory and structural understanding of oppression, group facilitation, dream work, addictions, community capacity building and domestic violence assessment. I also bring a neurodivergent-affirming lens because the way our brains process sensation, emotion, and intimacy matters!
I have also completed several years of training in somatic women's work (IOFA): women's cycles and life stages, sacred sexuality, pelvic awareness and breathwork. This draws on knowledge systems that have supported women's wellbeing across centuries and complements my evidence-based practice.
